If a plant doesn’t grow, you don’t blame the plant. You look for reasons why it isn’t thriving. Perhaps it needs more sun, less water or a bigger pot. Why then do we blame ourselves and other people when we don’t thrive in certain jobs and relationships? Just like a plant, when your needs aren’t getting met there will be symptoms. Those symptoms are signs that you aren’t getting what you need. Perhaps there isn’t anything wrong with you at all. Perhaps you are just in the wrong place?